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Valentines Week

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Although it’s late, I wanted to recap our Valentines Day this year.  Dwyatt was actually working on Valentines, and I was taking a midterm on Financial Derivatives.  Thrilling, I know. 

We actually celebrated the weekend before Valentines.  In the midst of studying for the upcoming midterm, Dwyatt surprised me with an afternoon couples message & an awesome dinner at PF Changs!  The message was the perfect gift after the stressful week we had, and we truly just enjoyed a relaxed evening together. 

On Tuesday morning I got a call from the receptionist at work to say I had flowers waiting for me!  This was the first time I have ever had flowers delivered to work and I was so excited!  2 dozen beautiful roses were awaiting me in the lobby, and I was beaming all day.  What a wonderful husband I have.  I’m so lucky to have a guy who does great things for me all year round, not just in mid-February.  I’m such a lucky girl!!

Yes, I may have gone a little overboard photographing the flowers… however I blame my amazing friend Ashley for introducing me to Diptic, the best iPhone photo app ever (or at least since the discovery of Instagram)! 

Marriage Monday

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“One of the nicest things you can say to your partner, ‘If I had it to do over again, I’d choose you. Again.’”
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I have heard this quote several times before and for some reason it always makes me stop and think.  If I could go back 6 years and have the choice to either start dating Dwyatt or continue on down the road of life as a single girl, what would I choose?  Better question… what would he choose? 

I think it’s easy sometimes to think back on phases of life and think if only I had done that, or made that decision, or traveled there.  But honestly, if we had done all those things, we wouldn’t be where we are today.  You are where you are today because of a series of choices, good or bad, they are the choices you made.  Would you change them?

If you can honestly look back at all the up’s and down’s of your life together and say that you would choose to live through it all again… choose it again just to be where you are now, that is truly a gift.  A gift that makes your spouse not only feel loved, but accepted despite their flaws, cherished despite their wrong doings, and worthy of your love each and every day.  It’s a statement that exemplifies unconditional love.  And after all, unconditional love, that’s the definition of a  marriage right?  That’s how Christ loves us; completely, fully, unconditionally.  Christ’s love is the ideal image of what marriage should be!

So yes, I think that one of the nicest things you can ever say to your spouse is that you “would do it all over again”.  I know I would.  And Dwyatt?  He said he would too.  :)

My Love.

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Happy Anniversary my love!

As of today we have been married 3 years.  Wow, time has flown by!  It honestly seems like just last week we were freshly home from our honeymoon and moving all of our stuff into our house for the first time.  I remember that we couldn’t believe how much stuff we had for two recent college grads… unfortunately 3 years later, I’m pretty sure we have even more stuff :)

Luckily we also have more memories, cherished moments, and crazy stories to go along with the stuff…  I can honestly say that I love you more now than I ever have before.  I love that you know me completely, accept the good and the bad, and love me for who I truly am.  I love that you work so hard for us, keeping our home beautiful and always helping me with any housework chores that I complain about.  I love that you love our cats every bit as much as I do.  I love the honest and sincere way you pour out your heart when we pray together.  I love that you offer to give me back messages and foot rubs when I’m tired and stressed.  I love that you make me get up and go running even when I’m trying to be lazy and sleep in longer than I should.  I love that you challenge me to be the best I can be, and that you are my partner in anything I set out to do.  I love that you can cook (seriously, you make the best fajitas I’ve ever had!)  I love that when we make mistakes you can find the humor in them, and it turns into a great memory.  I love that you plan to travel the world with me, even if you’re perfectly content on a lake somewhere.  And finally I love that I have an entire lifetime ahead of me to fall in love with you even more.

Forever yours,

Marriage Monday

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So, I have decided that I would like to do a weekly post about marriage.  I think when every young couple gets married they honestly think it will last a lifetime.  Even though the divorce rate in the United States is now somewhere around 50%, we all assume that we will somehow be immune to it, and that “it won’t happen to us”.  When in fact, the statistics say that if you & your spouse go out to dinner with your favorite couple, one couple will ultimately end up divorced. 

These statistics break my heart, and Dwyatt and I are very much aware of them.  We have devoted ourselves to continuing to keep our marriage strong… we want to outlast any statistic!!  So, being that we are a young married couple, I thought it might be appropriate to write about marriage on this blog… thus we are starting Marriage Monday’s!  :)  My thought is that once a week we can discuss different ideas to keep marriages strong, little tips to show your spouse how much you love them, and maybe one day even get advice from some “older & wiser” readers! 

When we were engaged we went to pre-marital counseling with our pastor.  One of the goals of this was to make sure we had thought through our decision to marry, and to challenge some of the topics we may not have discussed as a couple.  Our pastor asked us to read The 5 Love Languages, a book by Gary Chapman.  The reason I mention this book 3 years later is because Dwyatt and I still talk about it!  He will occasionally ask me out of nowhere, “how is your love tank today?” or “is the love tank full?”.  Although it sounds like a silly question, I think it’s important that we continue to openly discuss our happiness in our marriage. 

The ”love tank” is basically a measure of how happy you are with your marriage on a daily basis.  People tend to be one of the five love languages, meaning that they express and feel loved in one of the following ways:

1) Words of Affirmation – giving compliments and voicing the words “I love you” often.

2) Quality Time – undivided attention without distractions where you focus on a listen to your spouse.

3) Receiving Gifts – nothing big, just a handwritten note or a flower go a long way.

4) Acts of Service – helping your spouse with things like chores, cooking, laundry, etc. without them having to ask.

5) Physical Touch - holding hands, give them a message, hugs, are all forms of physical touch. 

I am definitely a Quality Time girl, and Dwyatt is a Acts of Service kind of guy (take this quiz to discover your love language!).  I think this is why Dwyatt & I both enjoy cooking together in the evenings.  He appreciates that I am trying to make him nice dinners and likes to share this chore with me, while I enjoy the casual conversation and undivided attention we give to one another during this time. 

What’s your love language?  How about your spouse?  How do you use these to demonstrate how much you love them??

Because I like pictures… here’s one I snapped with my iPhone at the pool earlier this summer :)